Thank you LeShay and Kim for sharing your insights because it’s definitely time that we come together and share information, encouragement and prayers so more of us may truly fulfill our Godly purpose. Kim, you are so right about the importance of loving yourself first because as the Bible says, “Love your neighbor as yourself.” That’s why it’s so important to work on yourself first because you cannot give what you do not have.

This is so wonderful; you guys hit the nail on the head. I wish I would have found something like this 20 years ago. I have discoverd that in order for you to find your ideal mate you must first know who you are and love youself. If you do not love yourself how do you expect to find someone to love you. Your relationship is like a business; you want someone who fills in those areas you are weak in and vice versa; this in a sense brings balance to you and them.

Thank you for allowing God to birth this ministry through your union. While the data is daunting, the message takes a fresh look at modern day black couples.

After celebrating 21 years of marriage with my beautiful bride on New Year’s Eve, I support your efforts 110%. Successful relationships don’t just happen they take work.

As a black man with more than a few issues of my own, I thank God for opening my eyes before MY soulmate got away. I too, carried a looooong list of requirements as MY benchmark for suitable dating candidates. My own mother had to remind that as much as she loved me, I was not perfect. Mom had figured out that I was willing to remain single and adopt children rather than compromise my standards

In hindsight, removing my criteria allowed GOD to establish his own-In my life. Marriage was and still is the best thing that EVER happened to me! My wife saved me from myself and taught me how to love DEEPLY. We still have our good days and bad but I wouldn’t take nothing for my journey now.

Here are my revelations for the visitors to your Blog:

1. Find your spiritual base – Our way is not always the best way (Job 37:5)
2. Learn to share the wealth. You can’t take it with you. (Ecclesiastes 4:9)
3. Apologize – In my case often………(1 John 1:9)
4. Never too late for love (Isaiah 43:18-19)
5. Mama Boy’s – Cut the purse strings & learn to leave and cleave (Genesis 2:24)
6. Sistas – You ain’t all that. Let a brotha holla! (Romans 12:3)

Be Blessed,
Shed Barber
A Recovering Mama’s Boy

He who finds a wife finds what is good and receives favor from the LORD.
Proverbs 18:22 (NIV)