What’s the latest divorce rate…34%… 51%… 28%…?
To be honest, I don’t know.
Regardless of what the divorce rate is at this present time, the most important percentage is 100% because your 100% commitment is what it’s going to take to have a healthy and successful marriage.
Personally, I have seen the impact of divorce on families.
And there are many reasons for why the divorce rate continues to grow. But regardless of the specific reasons, divorce has generational consequences.
So for someone seriously dating and considering marriage or for someone who is engaged, realize this: Marriage is no joke.
Yes, you are in love right now. And it feels so right. But do you think you are any different from those other engaged couples who finally got married and then later ended up getting divorced?
The reason I ask this question is because I believe that those couples, like you, felt their marriage will last forever.
I have spoken to various husbands and asked if they’ve ever asked the question, “Why did I get married?”
And they’ve all said, “Yes!”
So being honest, I’m here to share that marriage is not easy. It takes commitment and work. And yet, being married is one of the most incredible gifts that you can experience because it requires you to grow and be giving.
I want to you to remember this: There are going to be times when you and your spouse will have a major disagreement. There are going to be times when life challenges will squeeze and pressure your marriage. There are going to be times when problems will disrupt your family harmony.
But remember this too: Everything happens for a reason and it is an opportunity for you and your spouse to grow.
Yes, challenges will come up. Straight up! But it’s not what happens to you that’s important. Rather, what’s important is how you respond to the challenge of life.
The reason I say 100% is the most important percentage when discussing the divorce rate is because when you take the responsibility that the success or failure of your marriage is 100% on you, your commitment will change.
Yes, you heard me correctly… The success or failure of your marriage is 100% on you, 100% your responsibility.
Now some of you reading this may be thinking, “Now come on Marlon, that’s crazy. There are two people involved in this marriage and we must both do our part to make it work.”
Yes, I understand that but a marriage is never 50-50. There are times when I have to shoulder more of the responsibility and there are times when I lean on Syreeta for her to carry the weight.
The reason that I say 100% responsibility is because with this mindset, you will be more accountable to ensuring that your marriage is successful.
Here are 3 examples of being 100% responsible for your healthy marriage:
- When your spouse says something that rubs you the wrong way, you will hold your tongue and say a quiet prayer.
- When you and your spouse have a disagreement and things become ugly, you will be the first to apologize.
- When you have a major issue with something your spouse did or didn’t do, you will speak in a loving manner to resolve the issue.
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