Comments on: Couple Insights: Dwayne and Leslie Bond – “Best Friends” http://www.marlonandsyreeta.com/2010/02/couple-insights-dwayne-and-leslie-bond-best-friends/ Trust God! Love Yourself! Grow Together! Tue, 03 Apr 2012 08:15:21 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: marlonsmith http://www.marlonandsyreeta.com/2010/02/couple-insights-dwayne-and-leslie-bond-best-friends/comment-page-1/#comment-174 marlonsmith Wed, 03 Mar 2010 22:23:52 +0000 http://www.marlonandsyreeta.com/?p=442#comment-174 Hello Confused! I appreciate what Dwayne has shared with you. Based on the fact that you've been feeling "under-appreciated" for 5 years, it seems like you've now hit a point where you're considering divorce. With that shared, I encourage you to seek some professional marriage counseling because it's important to get true clarity on what is at the root of one spouse's preference to love from a distance. Another possible resource is attending a couple's weekend together at either <a href="http://www.winshaperetreat.org" rel="nofollow">www.winshaperetreat.org</a> or <a href="http://www.familylife.com/groups/covenantkeepersinc" rel="nofollow">www.familylife.com/groups/cove...</a>. My wife and I have attended both programs and were very inspired and empowered. I encourage you and your wife to do all you can to rebuild your marriage because God's vision is for healthy and loving marriages and families. A book that blessed me is entitled, "The Purpose and Power of Love and Marriage" by Dr. Myles Munroe. It may give some additional insights for you and your wife to strengthen your bond. Hello Confused! I appreciate what Dwayne has shared with you. Based on the fact that you've been feeling “under-appreciated” for 5 years, it seems like you've now hit a point where you're considering divorce. With that shared, I encourage you to seek some professional marriage counseling because it's important to get true clarity on what is at the root of one spouse's preference to love from a distance. Another possible resource is attending a couple's weekend together at either http://www.winshaperetreat.org or http://www.familylife.com/groups/cove.... My wife and I have attended both programs and were very inspired and empowered. I encourage you and your wife to do all you can to rebuild your marriage because God's vision is for healthy and loving marriages and families. A book that blessed me is entitled, “The Purpose and Power of Love and Marriage” by Dr. Myles Munroe. It may give some additional insights for you and your wife to strengthen your bond.

]]> By: marlonsmith http://www.marlonandsyreeta.com/2010/02/couple-insights-dwayne-and-leslie-bond-best-friends/comment-page-1/#comment-100 marlonsmith Wed, 03 Mar 2010 15:23:52 +0000 http://www.marlonandsyreeta.com/?p=442#comment-100 Hello Confused! I appreciate what Dwayne has shared with you. Based on the fact that you've been feeling "under-appreciated" for 5 years, it seems like you've now hit a point where you're considering divorce. With that shared, I encourage you to seek some professional marriage counseling because it's important to get true clarity on what is at the root of one spouse's preference to love from a distance. Another possible resource is attending a couple's weekend together at either <a href="http://www.winshaperetreat.org" rel="nofollow">www.winshaperetreat.org</a> or <a href="http://www.familylife.com/groups/covenantkeepersinc" rel="nofollow">www.familylife.com/groups/covenantkeepersinc</a>. My wife and I have attended both programs and were very inspired and empowered. I encourage you and your wife to do all you can to rebuild your marriage because God's vision is for healthy and loving marriages and families. A book that blessed me is entitled, "The Purpose and Power of Love and Marriage" by Dr. Myles Munroe. It may give some additional insights for you and your wife to strengthen your bond. Hello Confused! I appreciate what Dwayne has shared with you. Based on the fact that you've been feeling “under-appreciated” for 5 years, it seems like you've now hit a point where you're considering divorce. With that shared, I encourage you to seek some professional marriage counseling because it's important to get true clarity on what is at the root of one spouse's preference to love from a distance. Another possible resource is attending a couple's weekend together at either http://www.winshaperetreat.org or http://www.familylife.com/groups/covenantkeepersinc. My wife and I have attended both programs and were very inspired and empowered. I encourage you and your wife to do all you can to rebuild your marriage because God's vision is for healthy and loving marriages and families. A book that blessed me is entitled, “The Purpose and Power of Love and Marriage” by Dr. Myles Munroe. It may give some additional insights for you and your wife to strengthen your bond.

]]> By: dwaynebond http://www.marlonandsyreeta.com/2010/02/couple-insights-dwayne-and-leslie-bond-best-friends/comment-page-1/#comment-92 dwaynebond Tue, 02 Mar 2010 02:24:36 +0000 http://www.marlonandsyreeta.com/?p=442#comment-92 This is Dwayne. First, I want to applaud you for sharing where you are... That's a blessing. Secondly, without knowing everything that you've experienced, I'd feeling under-appreciated or neglected is so closely linked to being rejected sexually. It's frustrating, hurtful and smashes our ego and pride as men. Thirdly, it's hard to determine as a man how much sex is normal. Many times, we have desires but struggle with how to communicate our desire/need... and our wives misinterpret it as being ungrateful, we get upset, frustrated and neglected and then over time if it's unresolved, we get angry and bitter. Or we seek to keep them happy, in hopes of maybe increasing them maybe being more gracious towards us... When they don't, we get more angry and bitter.<br><br>I'm sure you have used the "d" word. It sounds like you are at your whits end and probably should have sought help earlier when the problem first showed up. When you say, "overcompensate" are you referring to sexually... Kind of like doing you a favor to keep you quiet? I'm sure being present with her, angry, maybe bitter and unsatisfied is worst than being away living from a distance. <br><br>I've plenty of suggestions... Continue sharing and I'll prayerfully try to help you. Again, I applaud you for reaching out for the sake of your life and marriage. This is Dwayne. First, I want to applaud you for sharing where you are… That's a blessing. Secondly, without knowing everything that you've experienced, I'd feeling under-appreciated or neglected is so closely linked to being rejected sexually. It's frustrating, hurtful and smashes our ego and pride as men. Thirdly, it's hard to determine as a man how much sex is normal. Many times, we have desires but struggle with how to communicate our desire/need… and our wives misinterpret it as being ungrateful, we get upset, frustrated and neglected and then over time if it's unresolved, we get angry and bitter. Or we seek to keep them happy, in hopes of maybe increasing them maybe being more gracious towards us… When they don't, we get more angry and bitter.

I'm sure you have used the “d” word. It sounds like you are at your whits end and probably should have sought help earlier when the problem first showed up. When you say, “overcompensate” are you referring to sexually… Kind of like doing you a favor to keep you quiet? I'm sure being present with her, angry, maybe bitter and unsatisfied is worst than being away living from a distance.

I've plenty of suggestions… Continue sharing and I'll prayerfully try to help you. Again, I applaud you for reaching out for the sake of your life and marriage.

]]> By: Confused http://www.marlonandsyreeta.com/2010/02/couple-insights-dwayne-and-leslie-bond-best-friends/comment-page-1/#comment-83 Confused Sun, 28 Feb 2010 01:46:14 +0000 http://www.marlonandsyreeta.com/?p=442#comment-83 I love the fact that there is mutual submission in this marriage. I've felt under appreciated and often times rejected by my wife in the bedroom. I've felt this way for the past 5 years however I continued to ensure that my wife and children remained happy even if I weren't. Unfortunately I've reached a breaking point and have proposed the "d" word to my wife. She's tried to over compensate to save our marriage, but my mind and heart aren't in it. I'd prefer to simply be alone and love my wife and children (2 boys) from a distance. Do you have any suggestions to help me/us? If I keep my mouth shut everyone's happy, when I open it then I'm the bad guy. I'm afraid of what God will do to me if I carry out the divorce. Help. I love the fact that there is mutual submission in this marriage. I've felt under appreciated and often times rejected by my wife in the bedroom. I've felt this way for the past 5 years however I continued to ensure that my wife and children remained happy even if I weren't. Unfortunately I've reached a breaking point and have proposed the “d” word to my wife. She's tried to over compensate to save our marriage, but my mind and heart aren't in it. I'd prefer to simply be alone and love my wife and children (2 boys) from a distance. Do you have any suggestions to help me/us? If I keep my mouth shut everyone's happy, when I open it then I'm the bad guy. I'm afraid of what God will do to me if I carry out the divorce. Help.

]]> By: marlonsmith http://www.marlonandsyreeta.com/2010/02/couple-insights-dwayne-and-leslie-bond-best-friends/comment-page-1/#comment-77 marlonsmith Fri, 19 Feb 2010 22:17:34 +0000 http://www.marlonandsyreeta.com/?p=442#comment-77 Dwayne and Leslie, thank you for sharing your insights. It truly touched me when you wrote, "Great investment – great return! Minimal investment – minimal return. No investment – no return." It's so simple and yet, so profound. We reap what we sow is REAL. What I'm taking away from your insights is the importance of sowing into my marriage and family EVERY day, and not just on Valentines Day or only on Syreeta's birthday. Every day is the day to make the investment so we reap the rewards of a healthy and loving marriage and family. Dwayne and Leslie, thank you for sharing your insights. It truly touched me when you wrote, “Great investment – great return! Minimal investment – minimal return. No investment – no return.” It's so simple and yet, so profound. We reap what we sow is REAL. What I'm taking away from your insights is the importance of sowing into my marriage and family EVERY day, and not just on Valentines Day or only on Syreeta's birthday. Every day is the day to make the investment so we reap the rewards of a healthy and loving marriage and family.

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