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Words of Wisdom for Singles

Devotional – Dating

by Marlon on August 31, 2010

Would You Date You?

“Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.”  Luke 6:31

Love is a Beautiful Thing!Isn’t it interesting how as we grow up, we all have a vision of our ideal partner?  You know what I’m talking about… “She is beautiful, has a great personality and is fun.”  “He is intelligent, caring and proactive.”

What are the characteristics of your ideal partner?

The reason I ask is because sometimes we can get caught up in the dating “game” without really having clarity as to what we truly desire in a partner.

Being crystal clear in what you want to experience in a relationship will definitely bless you because you will not waste unnecessary time in dating people who are not a “match” for you.

So give yourself the gift of writing the characteristics of your ideal partner.  Do it now. Why wait?

After you’ve written you list, review and put an asterisk by each characteristic that represents an “absolute” for you.  This means that these characteristics are non-negotiable.

I did this exact same thing and it allowed me to be more focused and intentional in what characteristics I was looking for in a partner.

But I also did one more step… I turned it over to God.  I made a commitment to God that I will follow His Word and so I made a promise to be celibate and to tithe.

I had come to the realization that I needed to live my life more in alignment to what the Bible communicates because I had previously dated some wonderful ladies and yet, most of those relationships ultimately ended with hurt, confusion and disappointment.

It was only by turning my life over to God and His Word that my life took on new meaning.  When I met Syreeta, my wife-to-be, things were different because I was different.  In my heart, I believe God blessed me by bringing Syreeta into my life because of my obedience to honoring His word of being celibate and tithing.

So what are you waiting for?  Make the commitment to God and watch how He blesses your life.

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Questions for Reflection:

  • Do you possess the same characteristics of your ideal partner?
  • How will you live a more God-focused life so you experience all that God has for you?

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Devotional – Singles

by Marlon on August 30, 2010

Who is the “Simon” in Your Life?

“Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways acknowledge Him, and He will make your paths straight.”  Proverbs 3:5-6

Who is the True source for LOVE?

Who do you listen to when it comes to LOVE?

Do you remember playing the game, “Simon Says” as a child?  Did you win?… To win the game, you would only follow the instructions that Simon says.  If Simon doesn’t say it, then you don’t do it.  If you do something that Simon didn’t say, then you lose.

Although I no longer play the “Simon Says” game, I have come to the realization that I am still being influenced by “Simon Says” today, just a different type of “Simon Says”.

Every day, I am being influenced by the Simon of what the media reports, the Simon of what my family and friends think, the Simon of what commercial advertising promote, the Simon of what the “experts” say, and the Simon of what the Bible communicates to me.

Can you relate?

I’m sure you can because we are all being influenced by what we hear, see, and read.

So who is the “Simon” in your life that has the greatest influence on your life?

For me, there was a time when it was definitely what my family and friends thought.  Their opinions greatly influenced what I thought, said and did.  As I grew to understand that everyone has their opinion and that doesn’t mean it’s “right”, I then gave more Simon power to what I saw on TV, read in newspapers or heard on the radio.  I eventually realized that this was not the true source because once again, everyone has an opinion and it doesn’t mean it’s necessarily “right”.

Finally, I had the revelation… “Let me make God, the source of everything, my #1 influence because He created me.”  I encourage you to also make God the major “Simon” in your life because you were born on purpose.  In order to understand God’s wisdom, spend time reading the Bible and pray to Him for direction.

When I was single, God comforted my heart by reminding me that I am never alone because He is always with me.  As I spent more with God, I became more comfortable with who I am.  God transformed my thinking by having me feel perfectly whole and complete as a single person.  Trust me, He will do the same for you.  All you have to do is make God the true “Simon” of your life.

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Questions for Reflection:

  • Who or what has the most influence on how you feel about yourself?
  • What are you doing to better understand God’s purpose for your life?

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