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Are You REALLY Receiving My Love?

by Marlon on December 19, 2011

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Why are couples having so many challenges in their relationships?

How can a couple be so much in love during their honeymoon and end up in divorce court?

Where is the disconnect?

These are some deep questions!   So what are the answers?  What do you think?

In my marriage, I’ve experienced a range of emotions… from love to disappointment to excitement to joy to anger to sadness to ecstasy to peace.

And there are times when Syreeta and I feel completely in love and then a few hours later, we’re having a “heated” discussion.

So what’s this all about?

The 5 Love Languages

This past weekend, Syreeta and I completed Dr. Gary Chapman’s “Love Languages” assessment so we could better understand how to give each other the type of love we are wired to receive.

It was amazing because I truly realize that Syreeta and I are “wired” differently.  And by completing the “Love Languages” assessment, we now have a better understanding of how we receive love.

For me, my top-3 love languages are:

1) Quality Time, 2) Words of Affirmation and 3) Physical Touch.

For Syreeta, her top-3 love languages are:

1) Quality Time, 2) Physical Touch and 3) Receiving Gifts.

Syreeta and I learned about ourselves and each other by completing this assessment.  For each of us, Quality Time is our #1 love language and we’ve realized that we MUST make spending quality time a priority.  This morning, we took a family walk and it blessed us.

So what’s your #1 love language?  And what’s your partner’s #1 love language? 

Do you know?

How will knowing your top love language and your partner’s love language strengthen your relationship?

Share your feedback.  Post your comment here.

Watch our next episode of “RELATIONSHIPS” TV, on Tuesday, December 20th at 9:00pm EST, because we will discuss this topic in greater detail.  Watch at: http://TVShow.MarlonSmith.com  Watch previous episodes and post your comments too.

Be sure to participate in our poll (below on the right column) to identify your #1 Love Language.  We are excited for you to share.

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Devotional – Dating

by Marlon on August 31, 2010

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Would You Date You?

“Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.”  Luke 6:31

Love is a Beautiful Thing!Isn’t it interesting how as we grow up, we all have a vision of our ideal partner?  You know what I’m talking about… “She is beautiful, has a great personality and is fun.”  “He is intelligent, caring and proactive.”

What are the characteristics of your ideal partner?

The reason I ask is because sometimes we can get caught up in the dating “game” without really having clarity as to what we truly desire in a partner.

Being crystal clear in what you want to experience in a relationship will definitely bless you because you will not waste unnecessary time in dating people who are not a “match” for you.

So give yourself the gift of writing the characteristics of your ideal partner.  Do it now. Why wait?

After you’ve written you list, review and put an asterisk by each characteristic that represents an “absolute” for you.  This means that these characteristics are non-negotiable.

I did this exact same thing and it allowed me to be more focused and intentional in what characteristics I was looking for in a partner.

But I also did one more step… I turned it over to God.  I made a commitment to God that I will follow His Word and so I made a promise to be celibate and to tithe.

I had come to the realization that I needed to live my life more in alignment to what the Bible communicates because I had previously dated some wonderful ladies and yet, most of those relationships ultimately ended with hurt, confusion and disappointment.

It was only by turning my life over to God and His Word that my life took on new meaning.  When I met Syreeta, my wife-to-be, things were different because I was different.  In my heart, I believe God blessed me by bringing Syreeta into my life because of my obedience to honoring His word of being celibate and tithing.

So what are you waiting for?  Make the commitment to God and watch how He blesses your life.

Post your comment to this blog.   Share your feedback because we appreciate your insights.

Questions for Reflection:

  • Do you possess the same characteristics of your ideal partner?
  • How will you live a more God-focused life so you experience all that God has for you?

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Devotional – Singles

August 30, 2010

Who is the “Simon” in Your Life? “Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways acknowledge Him, and He will make your paths straight.”  Proverbs 3:5-6 Do you remember playing the game, “Simon Says” as a child?  Did you win?… To win the game, [...]

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The “Inspire Your Family” Seminar on June 19th

June 17, 2010

Are you and your family living with purpose? Are you maximizing your true potential? Does your family have hope and clear direction for the future? All of us can benefit from learning specific strategies for being our BEST. With all that is going in today’s society, it’s definitely important to apply leadership principles that make [...]

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What is a REAL Man?

March 30, 2010

What is a REAL Man? Since February 2004, my production team and I have traveled throughout the United States interviewing hundreds of men on the topic of “What is a REAL Man?” We’ve interviewed business CEOs, professional athletes, rappers, educators, politicians, best-selling authors, community leaders, and even some men in jail. Although these men come [...]

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Questions To Ask While Dating

March 4, 2010

When you first date someone, it’s exciting because everything is NEW.  You’re learning about him/her and you’re sharing things about yourself.  Beyond the person’s looks, personality and day-to-day responsibilities, who is this person REALLY? Rather than get emotionally tied to someone who you later realize is not ideal for you, I encourage you to ask [...]

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Couple Insights: Adam and Aimee Freeman- “Learning to Keep God in the Center”

February 25, 2010

During the month of February, we are excited to profile a different couple each day on our Blog site. We have asked each couple to share their answers to specific questions concerning marriage and family. The couples we have invited are at different stages in their marriage… Some have been married for decades while others [...]

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Couple Profile: Mike and Lisa Shea – “Marriage from Good to Great”

February 2, 2010

During the month of February, we are excited to profile a different couple each day on our Blog site. We have asked each couple to share their answers to specific questions concerning marriage and family. The couples we have invited are at different stages in their marriage… Some have been married for decades while others [...]

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Couple Profile: Randy and Ree-Ree Burke – “Have Fun!”

February 1, 2010

During the month of February, we are excited to profile a different couple each day on our Blog site. We have asked each couple to share their answers to specific questions concerning marriage and family. The couples we have invited are at different stages in their marriage… Some have been married for decades while others [...]

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Choosing a life long partner

January 28, 2010

What is “really” important when choosing a mate? Do you know? Have you taken the time to “really” think about it? Is this something you have come up with on your own or are you seeking advice from others? Have you prepared  a list? Or are you one who says, “I will know it when I [...]

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