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Are You REALLY Receiving My Love?

by Marlon on December 19, 2011

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Why are couples having so many challenges in their relationships?

How can a couple be so much in love during their honeymoon and end up in divorce court?

Where is the disconnect?

These are some deep questions!   So what are the answers?  What do you think?

In my marriage, I’ve experienced a range of emotions… from love to disappointment to excitement to joy to anger to sadness to ecstasy to peace.

And there are times when Syreeta and I feel completely in love and then a few hours later, we’re having a “heated” discussion.

So what’s this all about?

The 5 Love Languages

This past weekend, Syreeta and I completed Dr. Gary Chapman’s “Love Languages” assessment so we could better understand how to give each other the type of love we are wired to receive.

It was amazing because I truly realize that Syreeta and I are “wired” differently.  And by completing the “Love Languages” assessment, we now have a better understanding of how we receive love.

For me, my top-3 love languages are:

1) Quality Time, 2) Words of Affirmation and 3) Physical Touch.

For Syreeta, her top-3 love languages are:

1) Quality Time, 2) Physical Touch and 3) Receiving Gifts.

Syreeta and I learned about ourselves and each other by completing this assessment.  For each of us, Quality Time is our #1 love language and we’ve realized that we MUST make spending quality time a priority.  This morning, we took a family walk and it blessed us.

So what’s your #1 love language?  And what’s your partner’s #1 love language? 

Do you know?

How will knowing your top love language and your partner’s love language strengthen your relationship?

Share your feedback.  Post your comment here.

Watch our next episode of “RELATIONSHIPS” TV, on Tuesday, December 20th at 9:00pm EST, because we will discuss this topic in greater detail.  Watch at: http://TVShow.MarlonSmith.com  Watch previous episodes and post your comments too.

Be sure to participate in our poll (below on the right column) to identify your #1 Love Language.  We are excited for you to share.

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Devotional – Engaged

by Marlon on September 3, 2010

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Who Do You Believe – What God Says About Marriage or What Media Says?

“Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with your mind and second, to love your neighbor as yourself.”  Matthew 22: 37, 39

Being Engaged is a Blessing!When the thought popped in my head to propose to Syreeta, asking her to be my wife, I immediately prayed to God for confirmation.

Yes, Syreeta is beautiful.  She is smart.  She is fun.  She is adventurous.  She is dedicated.  She is loyal.  She is sexy.  She is creative.

So why not propose?  Well, I had never proposed to anyone before.  And I took proposing very serious because it leads to marriage “… until death do us part.”

However, I’ve been conditioned to believe what the movies portray of a couple falling in love or what the romantic love songs illustrate in their lyrics. They highlight the fantasy of love.

But what happens when the initial infatuation wears off?   How do you keep the spice and passion alive?

God created marriage with Adam and Eve.  Marriage is a God idea so it makes sense to learn God’s perspective on what it takes to experience a healthy and loving marriage.

After Syreeta accepted my proposal, we participated in pre-marital counseling sessions at our church.  For me, it was an incredible experience because I learned so much about the individual roles of husband and wife.  My eyes were open.

One deacon shared that his 30+ year marriage has been blessed because every day, he prays this prayer:  “God make this the best day of my wife’s life and use me to make this happen.”

I share this with you because what the romance movies and songs promote do not always tell the entire truth.  Yes, there will be romance, passion and excitement.  But rest assured, life will present challenges and by having God in the center of your relationship, you and your life-long partner will grow through the turbulent times so your bond is unbreakable.

Do share your insights by posting a comment.

Questions for Reflection:

  • How do you define the word, “LOVE”?
  • From your perspective, what is the purpose of being engaged?

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The “Inspire Your Family” Seminar on June 19th

June 17, 2010

Are you and your family living with purpose? Are you maximizing your true potential? Does your family have hope and clear direction for the future? All of us can benefit from learning specific strategies for being our BEST. With all that is going in today’s society, it’s definitely important to apply leadership principles that make [...]

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Questions To Ask While Dating

March 4, 2010

When you first date someone, it’s exciting because everything is NEW.  You’re learning about him/her and you’re sharing things about yourself.  Beyond the person’s looks, personality and day-to-day responsibilities, who is this person REALLY? Rather than get emotionally tied to someone who you later realize is not ideal for you, I encourage you to ask [...]

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Choosing a life long partner

January 28, 2010

What is “really” important when choosing a mate? Do you know? Have you taken the time to “really” think about it? Is this something you have come up with on your own or are you seeking advice from others? Have you prepared  a list? Or are you one who says, “I will know it when I [...]

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Marriage Takes Three

January 27, 2010

Marriage takes three to be complete; It’s not enough for two to meet. They must be united in love by love’s Creator, God above. Then their love will be firm and strong; Able to last when things go wrong. Because they’ve felt God’s love and know He’s always there. He will never go. And they [...]

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What can a married couple do to divorce-proof their marriage and experience a healthy family?

January 13, 2010

What’s the latest divorce rate…34%… 51%… 28%…? To be honest, I don’t know. Regardless of what the divorce rate is at this present time, the most important percentage is 100% because your 100% commitment is what it’s going to take to have a healthy and successful marriage. Personally, I have seen the impact of divorce [...]

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What questions do you think are helpful in having an engaged couple or those seriously dating answer to determine if marriage is right for them?

January 11, 2010

My marriage has given me the opportunity to grow as a man, as a husband, as a father, as a leader, and as a child of God. Prior to getting married, I really didn’t know all that was required to experience a healthy marriage and family. Yes, while engaged, Syreeta and I went through pre-marriage [...]

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